LET US FIX OUR DEMANDS ...

(Following is in reference to the ghastly act of crime comited by 6 individuals against a 23yr old girl in the capital city of India and the protest that follows)

In the wake of such heinous crimes against the women of this country, the inaction of our police, the gender bias by our society, the lack of implementation of law by our judicial system and lastly the ignorance of our government has led to such huge protests.

So far we have had no fixed demands apart from our quest for a speedy justice. Which we thought our government would empathise with. But seeing the ineptness of our own elected representatives, we the citizens of INDIA, the citizens of each and every state in India have the following demands.

1.       Setting up at least 5 fast track courts at all level which includes (SC, HC, and lower courts) for cases of Rapes, sexual assaults, sexual harassment in each and every state.

Even small cases of eve teasing should be aptly addressed so that such criminals are not given a further push.

2.       Death Penalty or Life imprisonment at least in the cases of Gang Rapes and rapes. Since Gang Rapes should be accounted as Rarest of the rare cases nothing but death penalty should be awarded to such criminals.

An appropriate action should be taken against criminals who are minors .

3.        Immediate suspension of all employees/MP/MLAs or anyone in public service who has been charged with Rape or sexual assault.

Also they should be banned from contesting elections in the future.

4.       Immediate implementation of effective police reforms which deals with inept and insensitive police officers. Police reforms should be such that they include the society too to take part.

Also increase in number of police personnel in all the states. If the police is giving more importance to protecting VIPs, how do we expect them to address our issues?

5.       Implementation of social reforms towards gender sensitisation.

Steps like sensitising people through billboards, hoardings, TV commercials should be taken into consideration.

Such values should be entrenched at base levels in our society, specially in schools all our the country.

6.       Once any person is charged with any crime against women (or otherwise), they should be brought under UID immediately so that they can be tracked at all the time.

Also the Ids of Bus drivers, auto drivers should be mandatorily displayed.

These crimes are happening all over the country and not just Delhi, they should be addressed as a national issue and not as issue of a particular state.

I wish…

Off late, life’s just been long,

It seems nothing but a lost song

On the verge of this transition,

Life seems nothing but a meaningless expedition.

I have stopped waiting for tomorrow to come,

In this slow journey, I have gained little and lost some.

Started many things, but they were never finished,

As every time I saw my efforts get diminished.

I can no longer be true to myself,

As I keep stacking my dreams on a hidden shelf.

Looking at the rain drops, my heart used to feel elated,

But it’s an experience with which I am long jaded.

Still, deep down I know,

The seeds of dream I sow, will someday grow.

Someday, some time down the lane,

My time will come and I will be jubilant again.

I will be brimming with hope and confidence; I will be excited and childish,

For today and for now, that's what I miss and that’s all I wish. 

Practicality of an Indian Love story…

Let’s start with a story.

“Once upon a time there was a boy and girl. They were both madly in love. The boy proposed, girl agreed and they both lived happily ever after.”

FULLSTOP!!!

The practicality and the probability of that happening in India are almost laughable. India, where, “marriages are made in heaven” or the most emotionally draining one “A marriage is not just about two people, two complete families are marrying each other.

A really odd picture to imagine, don’t you think???

Anyways, let’s get back to the practicality part of Indian love stories.

Scenario 1 :: the best case scenario

A girl and a boy are madly in love. They both inform their respective parents. The first thing parents say “We trusted you!” or “You back stabbed us!” After many such sentimental blackmails will come the first question “What’s his/her caste?” Trust me, I am talking about the most forward middle class Indian family here.

“What’s his/her family background?” “Veg/Non-Veg?” “Father’s occupation?” “Siblings?”

Only after that, would come the sensible questions like “Age?” “job?” blah blah.

Now let’s say their families finally agree. But still both families would be locked in an ugly battle of gaining the upper hand all throughout the marriage (read lifetime).

Scenario 2 :: Both the girl and the boy have been in previous relationships but had to do arrange marriage.

In this case they both will amicably settle the issue of previous relationships. No matter how many they have had the girl will settle with one ex-boyfriend and the guy might settle with one or two (max) past girlfriends. The questions will still come, but they both will definitely keep them to themselves.

Scenario 3 :: Only one of them have had past relationships and it’s the “first love” for the other.

Just for the sake of lesser complications, we will let the girl have one ex-boyfriend and “first love” for the guy.

The girl asks somewhat naughtily “so, don’t lie, how many girlfriends have you had in the past?”  “None!” comes a calm reply

Guilt creeps into her, hesitantly she persuades the boy to tell the truth, but to no avail. She thinks “What if he asks me? What will I say? Should I tell him before he asks? No? I will not tell him! No, I should not keep a secret! But he doesn’t seem interested, maybe he will not ask!” But then comes the inevitable “How many relationships have you had in the past?”

“NONE!!!” comes a flat reply. Obviously, she panicked!!!

Scenario 4 :: It’s the “first love” for both boy and girl. Theoretically, this should have been the simplest. (It will be, in a longer run but!)

They both have been happy with their life and are currently in a very peaceful state of mind. The problem (obviously) comes when one asks first and the tries to play safe.

The girl asks “So, any past girl friends I should know about?” “Nah!” comes a casual reply.

SILENCE!!! (Oops!)

Girl thinks “why is he not asking me the same question?”

Boy thinks “Why did she ask me that question?”

Girl : “Does he think I have been involved in the past?”

Boy : “is there something she wants me to know?”

Girl : “I should clear my stand. No, that would look too obvious. He should ask first.”

Boy : “Should I ask her? No, that would throw a wrong impression. But she asked me, why can’t I?”

Girl : “Or is he trying to hide something? Did he just lie to me? Is it why he is not asking me the same question?”

Boy : “Did she have a boyfriend? If so, I would want to know. No…Would I?

And they lived happily ever after…